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The efficiency of generative dialogue

Nguyen Than Thuy Linh

· Clarity,Empathy,Purpose

My respectful seniors & mentors of SoG

My ears and my mind got so stressful when listening to the Core team's generative diague that surrounded their strategies and various organized perspectives to solve the problems. They are always opstimistic and calm to deal with serious decisions as a start-up social enterprise because they believe in their purpose and the law of attraction of nature. A great culture of an organization to collaborate based on collective intellectual, energy & leadership to realize their vision!

How to organize mind and capture the lessons into memory effectively without writing down?

Most of the lessons that I could remember and understand at the end of the day is the result of a connection of Head, Heart & Hand. Use head to think what to ask and how to crystalize the key lessons that are applicable in my life. Use heart to feel the emotions within the content and the acts of the communicating process. Use hand to open the book & the blog of SoG to digest such touching and authentic stories then write down the "brilliant" ideas.

Sometimes, I wish I could immediately put words into a logical order for the listeners catch my message easily. I usually get out of the topic that I am supposed to talk for the uncontrolled distraction affecting my concentration. The distraction stems from my inner thoughts rather the external factors in the way that some sub-points lead to further points but the main points. Yet thinking profoundly before saying takes time and who can patiently wait for me to sketch down some ideas? That’s why I am not so good at debating!

Thus part of my bucket list this year is to be able to process information better with wisdom and calmness. Since it was chosen as my purpose to invest on, I have been thinking about it all the time. Suddenly today, Liu Yan asked me one word of my New Year’s resolution, I explained that want. She immediately named organized mind as Clarity. “To have a sense of clarity, it is a whole journey which we have to put effort on” she said. My thought is of course I am aware that to be good at something, the key is to be hard-working and all journeys are never easy.

Just a wandering reflection! Don’t know the answer yet and my assumption is to cultivate all values of gumption and move to the level of generative listening. From the blog “How to change the world by working on our relationship” of Liu Yan, I first time knew the concept of generative listening, the highest “qualification” of listening skill. I did learn how to listen empathetically and give constructive feedback in public speaking that is already so impressing and useful to my personality. More than that, appreciatively, my recognization today is a new purpose to pursue that is to have the constructive mindset and grow through daily generative dialogues.

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Hai Yen's feedback about this reflection:

Linh was spot on about our culture of having generative dialogues, a term by Peter Senge in his learning organization work "The Fifth Discipline". Generative dialogue is one of the 6 attributes under SoG's 6C -Collaboration. In order to have a generative dialogue, each one needs to acknowledge that what he/she thinks and feels is his/her own perspective and only represents one point of view.

 

To understand an entirety of the discussed matter, one needs to constantly inquire into the team members' perspective or the team members would take initiative to advocate his/her perspective. The habits of not taking our own views as truth, and suspend judgment when listening to others are critical. This is called "balancing inquiry and advocacy" by Peter Senge, which is similar to "seek to understand, then to be understood" by Steven Covey in his "7 Habits of Highly Effective People".
 

  #patient

Just a wandering reflection! Don’t know the answer yet and my assumption is to cultivate all values of gumption and move to the level of generative listening. From the blog “How to change the world by working on our relationship” of Liu Yan, I first time knew the concept of generative listening, the highest “qualification” of listening skill. I did learn how to listen empathetically and give constructive feedback in public speaking that is already so impressing and useful to my personality. More than that, appreciatively, my recognization today is a new purpose to pursue that is to have the constructive mindset and grow through daily generative dialogues.

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Hai Yen's feedback about this reflection:

Linh was spot on about our culture of having generative dialogues, a term by Peter Senge in his learning organization work "The Fifth Discipline". Generative dialogue is one of the 6 attributes under SoG's 6C -Collaboration. In order to have a generative dialogue, each one needs to acknowledge that what he/she thinks and feels is his/her own perspective and only represents one point of view.

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